Important dates

Consider this testimonial from a dad: “I just wanted to share an awesome experience I had with my daughter this week.  My girl asked me to go to her school and have lunch with her.  I let a few weeks go by and I took a day off from work to surprise her.  Let me tell you I have never seen my daughter happier.  She was not expecting me, but when she saw me, her face lit up and she could not stop kissing me and hugging me.  We sat outside of the cafeteria and had a lunch on a picnic table.  After lunch, I went with her and her classmates to recess.  Her classmates were also thrilled that I was there.  When it was time for me to leave, my daughter got teary-eyed along with her two other friends.  Once she got home from school, she could not stop talking about me meeting her for lunch.  It was an unbelievable experience and one that I am sure neither of us will ever forget.”

What a great idea!  Put a lunch date with your VIP’s on your calendar. 


School starting…

School is ramping up, and this year, be committed more than ever to helping your child academically.  Take Napoleon Bonaparte for example.  He said, “A man occupied with public or other important business cannot, and need not, attend to spelling.”  Napoleon’s other important business ended up landing him on St. Helena, a small rock island, isolated from the rest of civilization.  Perhaps if he had cared to spell better, he would have communicated with people better.

Don’t let your children grow up to be a little dictator!  Studies consistently show when you help your children with their homework, they spell better, read faster and figure out math problems more quickly. 

Dads – what does your daughter need from you?

A poll was done of female employees of a Christian organization to find out their thoughts on what they think girls need from their dad.  Their first response? “She needs you to be involved.”  A daughter needs her father to be actively interested in her life. “Actively interested” does not refer to the second-long conversation that sometimes happens between a father and daughter when he asks how her day went and she replies with one word. A father should participate in his daughter’s hobbies and activities by displaying interest. For example, if she is interested in collecting coins, he takes her to coin shows. Uses the Internet to learn about rare coins and talk about them.  Or, if his daughter is athletically talented, he enjoys watching the games and becomes an enthusiastic fan!   You get the idea.  Just be there, wherever your daughter feels called to go.

Building memories

On this Memorial Day, let’s think about building memories for our kids. Our children need us to build lasting monuments in their lives. I call them “memorable monuments.” Memorable monuments are things you do with your kids that create lasting, loving memories.  Discover what he/she most likes to do with you and then do that together on a weekly or monthly basis. Your child’s favorite thing may be photography, working on engines, jogging, biking, cooking, or gardening.

What should you be afraid of?

Tim Kizziar once said, “Our greatest fear… should not be of failure but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter.”  Is there anything worse than giving something all you’ve got when, in the end, it amounts to nothing? Determining where to invest your time and energy can be tough. Be sure to limit the time you spend on things in life that don’t really matter in the end…things like the pursuit of worldly wealth, endless TV watching, or the latest gadget.  Instead, invest in your family. Invest your time and energy in people.  True success is living not for things, but for others.

Creating confident kids

In the movie, The Pursuit of Happyness, Will Smith plays a single father facing some tough stuff, along with his son.  Yet, Smith’s character maintains his self-confidence. He is determined to create a better life for himself and his son.  As a parent, it’s so important to have a strategy to build confidence in our kids in a world that constantly tells them they can’t. First, start by listening to your child.  They just want to be heard.  Second, be their number one encourager. Take time to attend their activities and tell them how proud you are of them.

Achieving greatness

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. told us what greatness is all about. He said, “Everyone can be great because everyone can serve.” One of our jobs as parents is to talk to our kids about the significance of serving others and show them how to do it.  First, serve in your home. You don’t have to look any farther than the four walls of your home to serve others. Doing chores together around the house, like washing dishes, vacuuming, and taking the garbage out, will teach your child how to serve. Serving is a great lesson that your kids should learn how to model.