Self control

Research is showing that self-control may play a tremendous role in a child’s future success.  Psychologists have done tests with children who could either have one marshmallow now, or two a little later – if they were able to wait. In later years, a follow-up study revealed that the children who were impulsive and ate the first marshmallow right away scored more than 200 points lower on their SATs than the impulse-controlled children who delayed gratification in order to get a second marshmallow. And the children who waited did better in school, were considered more dependable later on as adolescents, and better able to deal with stress and frustration.

Helping our kids learn the value of saying “no” to themselves while they’re still young might just help them achieve a greater measure of success in their adult life.


The right attitude – gratitude

You’ve given your children so much… so many things… so many acts of kindness, but the more you give them, the less they appreciate it.  What can you do?  Well, start by pulling back in the area where you’re giving too much and focus on relational areas where you can give them more… maybe more compliments, hugs, encouragement.  Also, make them wait for things and not always give in to their every desire.

Finally, if it is something they want, not need, then tell them they can work for it.