Setting the climate

It’s not something that’s in your job description at work.  It’s not something that you think about as a husband, wife or parent.  But it’s critical in any position of leadership.  It’s establishing the climate… the right kind of climate.  A mother or father establishes the climate when they walk through the door at night.  A worker sets the temperature for co-workers at the office.  A coach sets the climate out on the turf.  So, have you thought about how things feel when you’re around?  Who sets the climate in your home?  Is everyone comfortable around you or uptight?   Do others see you as caring and serving or aloof and self-serving?  Maybe it’s time for you to change the climate.


Ask about their school day

If you want to properly connect with your school-age children, you have to know what is going on in your child’s school.  And there’s no better way to do that than by asking insightful questions.  Here are 3 to help get you started:

1. What should you do when school seems boring?

2. What subject or topic really excites you?

3. Does how you do in school really impact your future?

Don’t over-coach

If you’ve spent any time on the field with your children, you know it’s sometimes tough to figure out when to be coach and when to be parent. Well, here’s an idea…let the coach be the person to push them and you, the parent, be the person to praise them. The car ride home from practice or games should not be a time to nitpick at their performance; it should be a sanctuary of praise filled with accolades to your child like “you looked great out there,”  “you’re a real pro,” and “you’re a real natural.” Lift your child up with praise

Playing sports this fall

As we start a new year of school, you may also be starting a new round of sports.  Are you kids playing a sport this fall? If they are, remember your position. Yes, we want to encourage our children to do their best, but we don’t want to be overbearing or put unrealistic expectations on them. And it goes without saying that no child wants to be embarrassed by a parent who’s screaming and yelling uncontrollably from the sidelines. We have to watch ourselves after the game too. Win or lose, praise him for trying hard and never shame him for not playing well. Save the instructions and pointers for a practice day.

Make time for what is important

There’s no such thing as not having time. When we say “I don’t have time,” what we’re really saying is that we don’t choose to make certain things a priority right now, or, there’s something else we’d rather be doing. Think about all the demands on your schedule and take a look at the things you spend the most time on. The truth is we make time for the things we want to make time for.  But that isn’t always necessarily what we should make time for. Starting today, make it a priority to set aside time for things that are ultimately important… your spouse, your kids, your faith, your health.

Honoring YOUR parents

Whether you’re 5 or 50, you should honor your mother and father.  How?  First, pick up the phone tonight and tell them that you are thankful for the good things they did for you growing up.  Second, realize that it’s never too late to apologize, or forgive.  Third, make it a point to enjoy their company whenever you have the opportunity.  Invite them over for dinner and serve them for a change.  Fourth, honor them by leaving a legacy for their grandchildren by creating a video of their life.

The price of purity

Several years back a University of Bristol student sold the rights to her virginity on eBay.  The highest bidder would be allowed a single night of passion with her. She ended up getting $12,000 for this endeavor. I wonder if she thinks it was worth it. My take is that virginity is priceless and your children should reserve themselves until marriage. Talk to your kids about the benefits of abstinence.