What does modesty mean? That is a good question to ask your sons and daughters. It is especially good to address this if you have a pre-teen daughter. “All the girls at school are wearing these, why can’t I?”… “It’s my body; shouldn’t I decide what to put on it?” These questions reflect the timeless struggle between teen girls and their parents over the issue of modesty. This issue is more critical than ever in today’s society, where pre-teens are encouraged by the media and peers to act and dress years older than they actually are. Everywhere you look, young girls – whether in real life, on television, or in advertisements – are dressed in ways that emphasize their sexuality and, to be blunt, degrade the value of female character. This makes for a good conversation and you might be surprised on how much your daughters agree with you. They just need to hear it.
According to the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, one in five teens have sent a naked picture of themselves by “sexting” – using a cell phone to transmit the image; or by posting it on the Internet. That means your child or one of your child’s friends has engaged in this sad practice. Many teens are swimming in a sea of sexual immorality and there is really only one way to combat it – open communication with your adolescent. Make sure you share your attitudes about sex openly, honestly and frequently.
The Journal of Family Psychology noted that 41% of fathers with sons spent more time with them, compared to 16% for dads of daughters.
It may seem more natural for dads to spend more time with sons because of common interests, but that doesn’t make it right. Girls need every bit as much of their dad’s attention as boys do. Men – if you have a daughter, talk to your wife about different ways you can enter her world – even if you don’t always understand.
If you’re not there for your baby girl, some other guy will be. And that’s usually not a good thing.